All posts written by Jared Kennedy

Christian Freedom & Parenting Series Review

Sojourn believes in Christian freedom, and our church has done a good job of staring down some of the legalistic controversies that plague many churches.  Sometimes we really do seem to “get it,” but what do we believe about Christian freedom when it comes to our children?  Is there freedom when it comes to feeding babies, school choices, spanking, and immunizations?  And what does Christian freedom look like when it comes to these kinds of issues?

Over the past few weeks, we’ve taken a look at several of these issues.  This has been an informative series.  I’ve learned a lot about what it means to dive into controversial matters with an eye on the Scriptures.  Perhaps on another day we’ll revisit these issues and touch on other controversial matters for kids–like spanking and what age you might allow a child to have ear rings or a tattoo.  But for now, we’re going to put these matters aside.  If you missed them, here are links to the posts in the series:

Justin Hyde: How do you pastor your family?

Here is a great article by Justin Hyde, an Acts 29 pastor in Brenham, Texas, on how he leads his family.  This is his outline and a few of the gems from his article:

1.  Routine

2. Intentional Evenings

I get home from work between 5:30PM and 5:45PM each night. But I have to prepare myself before 5:30PM so that I can hit the ground running when I walk in the door. Though I am invariably tired from my day’s work, I have to remind myself that the most important part of my vocation happens after 5:30PM, not before. This takes prayer, practice, and intentionality. It’s easy to fail.

Husbands/dads, don’t clock-out on your way home; be ready to be present and engaged; don’t let your kids or wife expect to hear your formulaic: “I’m tired;” turn your phone off (I recently read something like this: “If you touched your wife as much as you touch your iPhone your marriage would be in a much better spot.”); cancel your cable TV; repent of your addiction to new projects, hobbies, and distractions.

Wives, be gracious; be forgiving; learn and grow with your husband; make your home inviting and pleasing; manage the stress level (for you and the kids) before dad gets home (i.e. don’t let the water boil all day so that it’s boiling over the top right when dad’s car pulls up).

3. Time to Play

We eat dinner at 6:00PM. So I walk in the door and devote myself to the kids for 20-30 minutes. Rarely do I take 5 steps into the house before having a 5 year old around my left leg and a 3 year old around my right leg (and now, often, a baby in my arms). Dads, your kids are ready to see you. Ready to punch you. Ready to kiss you. Ready to play. Ready to build. Ready to read. And of course your wife needs this from you too if she’s making dinner or just needing a break after her long day. Husbands, remind yourself daily that your wife is likely more exhausted than you are by 5:30PM. Serve her well. This is also a good time to teach the kids about setting the table, helping to pick up the living room, honoring mom, serving a younger sibling, etc. But mainly this is a good time to play. Continue Reading…

Vision: Kids Music Liturgy & Bible Lesson

This liturgy is a lesson on biblical stewardship in light of Sojourn’s vision to see the gospel transform everything–ourselves as individuals, our church, our city, and our world.  To learn more, visit http://vision.sojournchurch.com

Leader 1:

(Opening call & response from the Catechism for Boys & Girls)

“Who made the world?’ That’s right, GOD made everything!

“Who made you?” (Pause) That’s right, God made you.

Who made me? (Pause) God made me!

“God made us for His own glory!”

“Why did God make everything?” For His own glory. “Why did God make you?” For His own glory.

We are here to sing to God, He made us for His own glory…. to show His beauty and His excellence.

“For His own Glory” means that God has made everything to show His fame, His beauty and His goodness.

Who are we going to sing to today? Are we here to sing to Mr.______? NO!!!! What about Ms.______? No!!!

We are here to sing to God! Continue Reading…

New Our Home is like a Little Church Video!

12 Principles for a Gospel-Centered Family

Gospel-Centered Family: becoming the parents God wants you to be by Ed Moll and Tim Chester, (The Good Book Company, 2009).

  1. Your family can show how great it is to live under God’s reign of love (Ephesians 6:1-4).
  2. Knowing God is far more important than “succeeding” in life (Deuteronomy 6:4-9)
  3. The biggest obstacle to good discipline is our own selfish hearts (James 4:1-10).
  4. Trying to be a good parent will crush you if you don’t embrace grace (Luke 18:9-14).
  5. Addressing the heart matters more than controlling behavior (Colossians 2:20-3:10).
  6. Don’t train your child to be a legalist (Luke 15:11-32).
  7. Make sure you enjoy your children (Psalm 127).
  8. Teach your children about God in the context of everyday life (Deuteronomy 11:16-21).
  9. Shape WHAT younger children watch and HOW older children watch (Proverbs 4:1-9).
  10. Teach children to pray by praying with them (Matthew 6:5-15).
  11. We belong to two families (Mark 3:31-35).
  12. Children are not the center of the world (Mark 12:28-34).