Good goals can easily become ultimate goals and therefore unbiblical goals. The most natural expression of the unbiblical goals we have for our kids is our desire to see them succeed. We want our kids to be successful so they can live peaceful lives that are filled with opportunity and guarded from pain, loss, tragedy, and suffering. We strive for our kids to succeed because we rightly recognize that the soil in which our kids are raised has much to do with future success.
The goals about to be discussed are not evil in and of themselves. In fact, most of the goals below can be good goals if they do not become ultimate goals. It is when we put the goal of making our kids successful above the goal of equipping our children to know and enjoy God that we need to reevaluate the goals we have for our children.
(1) Kids with Skillz: The goal is to enlist children in as many activities (athletic, artistic, musical, etc.) as time may (or may not) allow.
- Do I measure my success by the number of activities in which my kids are involved?
- Do I measure my child’s success by the number of skills she has mastered?
- Do I measure my child’s success by his mastery of any one skill or ability?
(2) Psychologically Adjusted Kids: The goals for the psychological adjustment of children often drift according to the pop psychology of the day. These goals may include building self-esteem, training kids to be effective with people, or perhaps raising kids who are not spoiled.
- Do I measure my success by how closely I align myself with a particular method of parenting?
- Do I measure my child’s success by how much he esteems himself or how much he esteems others? Continue Reading…