Wolter’s Top Ten Parenting Books

My friend Doug Wolter at LaGrange Baptist recently recommended his “ten best” parenting books. Here they are:

1. How Children Raise Their Parents by Dan Allender – I enjoy Allender’s honest style of writing.  He shows us how God grows us parents to spiritual maturity as we learn to listen to our kids.

2. Gospel-Powered Parenting by William Farley – The author claims that the most effective parents have a clear grasp of the cross and its implications for daily life. Our only hope is Jesus.

3. Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel – Favorite quote: I’m urging you to raise your children the way God raises His. The primary word that defines how God deals with His children is grace.

4. Gospel-Centered Family by Ed Moll and Tim Chester – I love how this book is laid out in simple, concise chapters with questions for reflection, making it ideal for small group application.

5. The Space Between by Dr. Walt Mueller – A very readable book on the changes that happen during adolescence and how to better understand your child (and you) through these years.

6. Parenting Today’s Adolescent by Dennis and Barbara Rainey – This is a comprehensive guide for parents that explores the many traps of adolescence (like peer pressure and dating) and gives you creative ways you can talk about them with your child.

7. Romancing Your Child’s Heart by Monte Swan – A refreshing reminder that parenting is less about training and technique and more about cultivating a real relationship with your children.

8. Sacred Parenting by Gary Thomas – The author writes,What if one of God’s primary intentions for you as a parent isn’t about successfully raising perfect children, but about your becoming more holy?” Great question!

9. Shepherding A Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp Tripp’s aim in writing this book is to point parents to the biblical truth that all of what a child does flows from the heart so we must shepherd their hearts if we expect lasting change.

10. Age of Opportunity by Paul Tripp – I always appreciate Tripp’s focus on how God parents us as we parent our kids. This is an excellent book on seizing the opportunity God has given us during these tough teenage years.

HT: Doug Wolter

Jesus Was Baptized

This past Sunday at SojournKids, we studied Jesus’ baptism from Matthew 3:13-17.  We learned that:

  • People are baptized to show that they are turning away from sin.
  • Jesus was baptized to show that he carries our sin.
  • Jesus is God’s dearly loved son, and he has no sin.

We showed this video to the kids in our preschool and elementary classes:

Baptism Sunday from Sojourn Community Church on Vimeo.


Last Sunday: Jesus Healed Many

This past Sunday at SojournKids, we studied how Jesus healed many from Luke 4:31-41.  We learned that:

  • Jesus is truly the Son of God
  • He has authority to cast out demons and heal from diseases
  • He healed Simon’s mother in-law from a fever.

Download the SojournKids At Home sheet for the lesson here.


Thursday Book Club: Preparing Young People For Baptism

Preparing Young Children for Baptism: Mentor’s Guide and Pastor’s Supplement by David Michael (Children Desiring God, 2011).

Baptism is a significant act of obedience, and an important milestone in the life of a young believer. These  booklets outline a process, objectives, and sessions for leading a young person through the meaningful process of baptism preparation. Used together, the Pastors’s Supplement and Mentor’s Guide (designed particularly for fathers) outline a thorough church-sponsored youth baptism process.  The Mentor’s Guide provides outlines for six “faith talks” for use by mentors during the preparation time, and it includes two appendices, which provide theological justification for the suggested process. The Pastor’s Supplement contains instructions for church’s wishing to implement a youth baptism process (see below) along with a CD with forms (Microsoft Word 2007) that you can customize for your church. Continue Reading…

Making “March Madness” quality Father-Son time.

It’s that time of the year where dads everywhere are glued to the television watching every dramatic basketball moment unfold.  It’s also a time where many dads zone off into TV land, not to return to real life for hours.  But for those lucky dads who have the privilege of having boys old enough to enjoy sports – this can be some great quality time.  The Scripture tells us to “let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

Just spending time with your kids while watching basketball is great, but it’s also a great time to have some Spiritual conversations.  Here’s a couple examples of conversations that you could have in order to make the most out of your time with your son:

Ask questions such as, “Who’s the fastest kid in your class?”  “Who’s the best at basketball?”   “Is there anyone on your team who guarantees your victory?”  Then explain how in life we would never win if left alone against sin.  But when we have Jesus on our team, he does all the work and we always win against sin!  It’s like we ride the bench while he’s the star player, but we still get the championship ring because of how great he is!

Another example is to talk about how we identify with the team that we’re rooting for.  If UofL wins the national title this year, I’m going to tell all my friends that “we won” even though I didn’t have anything to do with it.  This is how it works with our spiritual lives too.  When Christ wins, we win!

These are just a few examples, but hopefully it will point you in the right direction!