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Thursday Book Club: ApParent Privelege

ApParent Privilege. Steve Wright with Chris Graves.  Inquest Ministries: Wake Forest, NC.  175 pages.  $14.99.

Steve Wright, as a follow-up to his book on the new reality in youth ministry, ReThink, spoke directly to parents in his book, ApParent Privilege. Steve, pastor of student ministries at Providence Baptist Church in Raleigh, NC, along with his wife, Tina, have 3 teenagers under their roof.  In this book, they give practical and theological advice to other parents who are, with God’s help, trying to raise sons and daughters in the 21st Century.  His premise is that the parents hold the biblical mandate to be the primary spiritual shapers (disciplers) of their own children.

From the outset, I would highly recommend (and or give) this book to everyone who is expecting a baby, has a baby, toddler, child, or teenager.  No matter what age, it is never to late to start training your children in the ways of God.  Over the past 2 ½ years, I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Steve and Tina, and know they practice what they preach. Continue Reading…

Faith over Formula: Why the Best Parenting Techniques Don’t Produce Chrisitan Children

This article,  “The Myth of the Perfect Parent: Why the Best Parenting Techniques Don’t Produce Christian Children” by Leslie Leyland Fields, Christianity Today (January 8, 2010), is perhaps the most profound article on parenting that I’ve ever read.  It is straight-forward, convicting, and true.  I hope that every parent at Sojourn can read and re-read it.  Here is one of the best sections:

“Whether they listen or fail to listen … they will know that a prophet has been among them” (Ezekiel 2:5).

This was Ezekiel’s responsibility: to speak and embody God’s words before the people in such a way that they might know who he was, a righteous prophet of God, and that they might know who God was. Ezekiel wanted more than this, of course. He desperately wanted to turn the people back to the living God and prevent the impending and appalling judgment and death. The record does not tell us if anyone repented as a result of his words, but Ezekiel was never accountable for the repentance of others. He was accountable only for his steadfast obedience.

It is likely that we are asking the wrong questions as parents. We are so focused on ourselves—on our own need for success and the success of our children—that we have come to view parenting as a performance or a test. It appears we are failing the test, as large numbers of our youth leave the church when they leave our nests. And now genetic research tells us the test may even be rigged.

We cannot pass this test, I’m afraid, nor could we ever. If we are graded on a curve, we will always find parents and children who are more obedient, more joyful, and more peaceful than we are. We will find parents whose children turned out better than ours, parents with a higher percentage of “spiritual champions” than we can claim for our efforts.

If we are graded instead on an absolute scale—as I believe we are—we fail even more miserably. But this is why a Savior was provided, and gifted to us through grace, through faith—”and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast” (Eph. 2:8-9). If even our ability to believe in God is given to us by God, then how much of parenting can we perform on our own? We must proceed, then, on our knees first, beggars before the throne, if we are to parent well.

The Children of Poverty

In the United States, distinguished by its extraordinary wealth, there are six million poor individuals known to few others but their own families.  They cannot vote.  They cannot work.  Most do not even go to school. They are America’s youngest poor–children under six (Statistic from Tim Keller, Ministries of Mercy, 6).

In the Louisville Metro area, almost 43% of households with children under the age of 5 without a dad at home fell below the poverty line in 2007 (U. S. Census Bureau, 2005-2007 American Community Survey).

In 2007, 23% of all homeless people were members of families with children (National Coalition for the Homeless Fact Sheet #12, June 2008).

Estimates of the number of homeless children range from 800,00 to 1.2 million, and in 1995, 4.2% of children under the age of one year were homeless (Urban Institute, 2000; Culhande & Metraux, 1999).

At least half of homeless children are under the age of 5 (National Center on Family Homelessness, 1999).

Homeless families are most commonly headed by single mothers in their late 20s with approximately two children (Rog & Buckner, 2007).

How will the church step in with Word and deed?

“Christ In An Orphan-Making Culture” – Wednesday, Jan. 27

Nationally known author and speaker Dr. Russell Moore is coming to Sojourn East to discuss adoption on Wednesday, January 27 from 6:30pm to 8pm. During his presentation “Christ In An Orphan-Making Culture,” he will talk about our adoption as children of God, as well as God’s call upon the Christian community to adopt children in need of parents.Everyone from both Sojourn campuses may attend for free. Invite your friends as well.  We are providing childcare. RSVP at this link by Monday, January 25. Dr. Moore is the author of Adopted For Life: The Priority Of Adoption For Christian Families And Churches. He is also the Dean of the School of Theology and Senior Vice-President for Academic Administration at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, and author of the popular Moore To The Point blog and podcast. For directions to Sojourn East, visit the East campus page here at http://sojournchurch.com.

Kids Music Liturgy for January 2010

Hey Sojourn Parents,

As most of you probably know, twice a month your children get together with kids from other classes and take part in a mini-service modeled after the Big Church, with songs and liturgy and prayer and all. The idea is to introduce the kids to a typical Sojourn worship service so they’re ready when they leave the Sojourn Kids program, and also to get them thinking about how good and glorious and beautiful and true God and His gospel are.

This month, the liturgy is centered on God’s grace towards us in Jesus. We’re singing five songs:  “For By Grace” (A setting of Ephesians 2:8-9 in NASB by Mark Altrogge), “Amazing Grace” (the traditional hymn), “You Show Me Kindness” (from Sovereign Grace’s To Be Like Jesus cd), “Mighty Mighty Savior” (also from Sovereign Grace, Awesome God – Both of these cds are excellent resources if you don’t have them), and “God’s Love Goes On Forever” by our own Chandi Plummer.

I hope you’re able to connect with your kids as a family around these songs and truths. We want you to know what the kids are doing so they can keep hearing about Jesus and God’s grace in between Sojourn Kids services. I’m sure you’ll be encouraged and moved too as you consider what God has done for us and talk about it with your kids.

Here’s the actual liturgy we’ll be using with the kids this month: Continue Reading…