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Think Tank: Condition of Accountability

think-childrens-ministryWhat do you teach concerning a child’s condition (sometimes called age) of accountability for responding to the Gospel? How would you counsel a parent who is concerned about a preschool aged child who seems disinterested in learning about Jesus? If you had to estimate (and you do), what is the chronological age that most children become fully accountable for their decision about Christ?

Some Christians and Christian traditions maintain that Scripture teaches an “age of accountability” before which young children are not held responsible for sin and are not counted guilty before God.  But several Bible passages indicate that children (even before they are born) have a guilty standing before God and a sinful nature so that they not only have a tendency to sin, but God views them as sinners (Psalm 51:5; 58:3; Ephesians 2:3).  Experienced parents know that children do not have to be taught to do wrong.  It is their natural inclination to disobey, to lie, and to manipulate.

This is one of the strongest motivations for Christian parents and Christian churches teaching the gospel to their children from the youngest age.  We teach about Jesus because children need Jesus as their savior from sin.  As one famous preacher said, “The gospel is meat for men but it is also milk for babes.”  But kids don’t always want to hear about Jesus and trust him.  When a preschool age child isn’t interested in learning about Jesus, there isn’t necessarily a cookie-cutter answer, but here are some areas I’d explore with the parent: (1) I’d encourage the parent to examine his or her own heart.  Does mom and/or dad get excited about Jesus and learning from his Word?  Do they regularly pray and read Bible stories together with their family?  Young children often look to and follow their parent’s example.  Perhaps a parent has a satisfying relationship with the Lord, but it is private and not shared with the child.  Invite the child into your relationship with Jesus.   (2) I’d ask the parent whether or not he or she talks about sin with their child.  Does your child know that when she disobeys you, she is also disobeying God?  Do you just talk about your child’s misbehavior (taking a cookie, hitting his sister, not sharing), or do you talk with him about the heart attitudes and motivations that lie behind that behavior (greed, pride in performance, selfishness)?  When our children have a more honest view of the extent to which sin is rooted in their hearts, they will be more likely to look for and respond to Christ—who provides pardon and provision for that sin.  (3) Most importantly, I’d pray with the parent, and I’d encourage the parent to pray.  Salvation is ultimately God’s work in the child’s heart.  May God have mercy on our kids and help them to repent from sin and love Jesus.

As I stated above, I cannot justify an “age of accountability” from the Scriptures.  John the Baptist was filled with the Holy Spirit from his mother’s womb (Luke 1:15).  Since salvation is God’s work in a person’s heart, it doesn’t require any particular level of cognitive understanding or behavioral response to be present and real.  Growth in faith is certainly evidenced by understanding and behavior, but it is not earned (or merited) by them.  Faith is more than a decision, it is a gift from God.  So, Tony, my age estimate is somewhere around conception. :)

See the answers given by other children’s ministers here.

Think Tank: Evangelism & Manipulation

think-childrens-ministryMy friend, Pastor (and now school teacher!) Tony Kummer, just posted up the latest edition of the Children’s Ministry Think Tank.  Here is the latest question and my thoughts.  Click over to his site to see very thoughtful answers to the same question from Brenna Phillips and Glenn Woods.

How should children’s ministry offer an urgent Gospel invitation without emotionally manipulating children? When does child evangelism cross the line and become abuse? What principles guide you in this area?

Last week [now a few weeks back], I read the following words from Henry Zonio (http://elementalcm.com) regarding evangelistic presentations for children:

The key… is to help connect children and families to Christ and allowing the Holy Spirit to do the work of conversion. It’s more than just praying a prayer, raising a hand or coming to the altar. It’s about life transformation, and that is something that can’t be manufactured or manipulated into existence.

Henry is right. Real conversion—life transformation—can’t be manufactured or manipulated into existence. It is God’s work, not the work of a minister or parent. When we seek quick decisions from children, we are in danger of manipulation. So, in the spirit of Henry Zonio, here are some principles for avoiding manipulative evangelism. Continue Reading…

Think Tank: Baby Dedication

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I tapped out of the latest edition of the Children’s Ministry Think Tank. I have lots of excuses… preaching, web site crashes, etc.  But none of them are really that good, because the latest topic is a really important one.   So, even though I didn’t make the posting deadline, I thought I’d go ahead and answer the question here… and provide a link to thoughts from other children’s ministers.

Think Tank #3 Questions About Baby Dedication

What is your church’s practice of baby dedication? Does it integrate with a family ministry strategy? Are their membership requirements for the parents? What do you include in the ceremony?At

At Sojourn, our dedication service is a time we set aside to celebrate the children that God has given us.  Member families from our church community come to go public with their desire to bring up new children by God’s grace and according to his instructions.

Our service is simply called a Dedication. Some churches think about it as a baby dedication, but it is better called a Parent Dedication. This is not a water baptism, but it is a heavy thing–serious business for the parents involved. The dedication is a covenant–a holy commitment made between the parents, God, and our church community. It is serious business for our church as well. We don’t believe that God made children the responsibility of the nuclear family in isolation. Continue Reading…

Think Tank: Kids and Baptism

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The second  Children’s Ministry Think Tank from Ministry-to-Children.com addresses the issue of kids and baptism.  Here is this week’s question as posed by Tony Kummer.  You can read my answer below or click over to Tony’s site to read the answers from my colleagues.  Apart from some minor differences, our approach is fairly similar.

Think Tank #2 Questions About Baptism & Kids

What is your church’s policy about baptizing kids? Is there any age absolutely too young? If you had to pick a “typical” or “ideal” age what would you say? What happens when a kid comes back for re-baptism as a teen?

Response from Jared Kennedy

It is a joy to speak with parents that desire to tell the gospel to their kids and encourage their faith. There are lots of tensions that weigh on our hearts when we approach the issue of childhood baptism and church membership. With parents, we long to see our children saved and not discouraged. We also long to have a policy that will not compromise our church’s witness to the culture by accepting and baptizing a child too quickly.  Sojourn has put together a full policy booklet that helps parents navigate these tensions.  You can download it here.

Here is our policy in brief:

  1. Sojourn strongly recommends that parents wait until their child is at least twelve years old before presenting them for a baptism interview. This is a recommendation and not a mandate. Children will be interviewed, and their readiness for baptism will be considered on a case-by-case basis.  We recognize that the New Testament example is for baptism upon a valid profession of faith. Therefore, baptism ought to follow conversion immediately upon the appearance of discernable signs of conversion.  Time, however, is sometimes the only course of action for determining, as much as is humanly possible, the validity of a child’s profession of faith in Christ. For this reason, we strongly advise parents to wait.  Evidence of faith often becomes clearer as the child grows and shows the fruit of a changed heart.
  2. Conversion is God’s work in the believer. It is not simply a decision on the believer’s part. We strongly encourage parents to look for evidences or signs of conversion (such as conviction of sin, understanding of truth, and a renewed life in their child before presenting him or her for baptism.
  3. Since parents are responsible for instructing their children and overseeing their spiritual development, it is imperative that the church teach, instruct, and guide parents in this task. Parents of seeking children are paired with a representative from Sojourn’s leadership,who meets with these parents to discuss the tensions involved in discerning a child’s heart.  Parents are also be paired with mentors-typically parents with children who have been through the process before-who will counsel and advise the parents as they seek to lead their children in spiritual things.
  4. Over a period of time, the seeking child is led by his or her parents through a study that clarifies the gospel such as Who Will Be King by Matthias Media, A Catechism for Boys and Girls by Reformation Trust Today, or something similar.
  5. At the conclusion of this study, the child meets for an interview (or series of interviews) with his or her parents, the parents’ mentors, and a representative from Sojourn’s leadership. The purpose of these studies is for the mentors and leadership representative meeting with the child and parents to discern if the child understands and has embraced the gospel.   During these meetings, the pastoral and mentorship team also help the child to craft a testimony which, as with all baptism candidates, is read at the baptism service.
  6. Mentors and parents then jointly present the child to the elders for church membership and participation in the ordinances at the conclusion of their teaching/mentorship meetings.
  7. If the elders are convinced that a child has given evidence of a genuine conversion, the child is baptized and accepted into the fellowship and discipline of the church. The child, under the authority of his or her parents, is without voting responsibilities until the age of eighteen.
  8. At the age of eighteen, the child attends Sojourn’s membership classes and interviews, like adult candidates for membership, with an elder. The voting responsibilities given to adult members are exercised only after the completion of this interview.

Given our policy, most young people are not baptized until their teens though many come to faith at an earlier age.  We do not believe in re-baptism, but, if the teen, his parents, and Sojourn’s elders believe that a previous baptism occurred before the child was genuinely converted, we would allow the teen to participate in a second baptism service and receive a true baptism as a believer.

Children’s Ministry Think Tank

think-childrens-ministryTony Kummer’s Ministry To Children.com blog just launched a new feature called Children’s Ministry Think Tank, and he’s asked me to join the project.  I’m sorta flattered.  What do I know?  About twice each month, Tony will email a group of three children’s ministers tough questions and then post our answers on his website.  His aim is to get different perspectives and help everyone to learn.  I’m participating this month along with Brenna Phillips (the Children’s/Family Minister at Mission Fellowship Church in Middletown, Delaware; www.brennaphillips.com) and Glen Woods (a Children’s Pastor in Portland, Oregon; Children’s Ministry Conversation).  I’m pretty excited about this new gig.  Please  pray that I will have something substantive grace-filled  to contribute.

Here is question #1:

Jon is an 8 year old boy with little church background. He’s been coming to your children’s programs for several weeks. One day he sticks around and seems like he wants to talk. He says, “I don’t want to go to hell, how can I be saved?” How would you respond?

Here is my answer:

I would ask Jon a lot of questions—trying to get a sense of whether or not he understands that he is a sinner in need of the Savior.  I would respond by stressing the facts of the gospel. Continue Reading…